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Frustration is the earliest known cause for destructive and aggressive behavior in children. When the child is unable to get what he wants, he resorts to aggression. This is either to remove the obstacles along his path or to find something to do that could help him vent his anger. Let’s say for example, a child sees a toy in a shop’s display window, he would then ask either the mom or dad for it. When they tell him that he cannot have it because it’s expensive or for other reasons, the child may start having tantrums, would choose not to leave the place, or worse fight back and hit either the mom or dad when told to follow them or stop misbehaving. And that is due to becoming really frustrated because of not getting the toy that he wanted to have.

Destructive behavior is apt to be repeated if the cause of frustration is not removed or if the reward or punishment the child received as a consequence of his behavior is not appropriate. If the child’s destructive behavior gained him attention or approval, it will most likely be repeated.

Children do not usually intend to hurt. Parents should always ask themselves whether the child understands what he is saying or doing before undertaking corrective measures. The child should be taught positive ways of releasing emotions. Teach him to be calm when angry; to dance and sing whenever he is sad; to hum a tune when he is scared; and to count one to ten, think of what he has, or think of happy thoughts when he starts feeling frustrated.

Ask the child if he understands the implications of harsh words. Is he aware that tehse may hurt someone he does not wish to harm or annoy. As parents it is our duty to shape our kids to be better individuals, and we start correcting them and teaching them the right thing to do while they are young.  My son has been a very good boy so far, and has not been misbehaving. Although as a parent I feel that it my responsibilty to observe and to read as much helpful information that could prevent my kid from becoming a misbehaving child. But, for those who have toddlers and young children, try to check on them and determine whether the cause of their bad behavior is due to frustration or not.

Father and Son

Many unmarried couples in the Philippines who start having children are in a dilemma when it comes to whether their sons or daughters will carry the father’s surname or the mothers. Usually, illegitimate kids carry their mother’s surnames even if the couple are still together. I am in the same situation. Due to some reason, Liv and I are not yet married although we are planning to officially become a couple next year.  But, in  our case, my son uses my surname although Liv and I are not married yet. The Article 176 of the Family code of the Philippines that states “illegitimate children should carry their mother’s surname and not their father’s“,  was written to give protection to single parents and to give the women automatic custody of the child. But this Republic Act has already been modified through the Republic Act (RA) 9255.

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Photo Source: A Happy Battle

Francis Magalona’s battle with Leukemia continues, and our guy is determined to win this. I salute his courage, strength and determination. His family and friends being the main source of all his strength has never failed to give that unfailing support. Kiko is also thankful to all his fans who continues to pray for his quick recovery. Francis Magalona is truly a man of his craft, both music and art in the form of photography. His illness does not stop him from continuously sharing his talent to everyone.

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exercise

While most of us are too tired to spend some time working our or exercising, there are those people who are so into exercising that they don’t feel their day is complete without going to the gym or simply going for a should walk or jog and doing some good stretching. Let’s all admit it that exercising is really essential for our health. But what if you’re not feeling perfectly fine during a certain day, Should You Exercise When Sick?

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Rock Music

What do you know about the history of Rock Music? My grand dad told me that rock music is actually a child of ‘rhythm and blues’ and also of jazz. Actually, he is right. The basic of rhythms of rock and roll were already present in primitive jazz, and they reappear in ‘boogie’. Despite the growing popularity of other genres nowadays, Rock music still stands out, because it embodies all the sounds, the colors, the anxieties, the frenetic rhythms, and rush of life in the big cities.

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A baby praying

My son Ollie will be one year old next month, he hardly talks clearly yet, but I think that’s understandable. He’s very active and quick in learning. My son is very independent and he is not afraid of trying new things. He hardly has tantrums and we don’t have problems feeding him either.  Right now, he’s on the process of trying to stand up and walk on his own without any help from us. He can utter a few words already but most are still babyish, we want him to learn the right words, so we don’t do  gibberish baby talk. What we do instead  is speak to him clearly, associated with actions and some pictures. 

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Hugs for Health

Before I start this, let me shower you all with Hugs Hugs Hugs HUGs :)

HUGS

A hug is the most comforting gesture one can do for another person, most especially if one is feeling so down. For some reason, there seems to be some kind of power to lift up one’s spirit and self-esteem just with a simple hug. Ongoing research studies indicates that people who are being shown affection are less likely to get sick, feel sick, or see a doctor in their entire lifetime. People who are shown affection have more zest for life, love for work, less likely to get burned out, and feel that their existence is more meaningful.

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How to tell if your kid is Anemic

How to tell if your kid is anemic?

It is quite alarming that there is a current rate of 30 percent Iron deficiency anemia (IDA) among our little preschooler whose age range is from 2 to 5 years, and 57 percent among infants. Iron deficiency anemia (IDA) is caused by low iron and vitamin C in the diet.
Symptoms usually include paleness of the skin, inner lower lip, nail beds, palm, and the inner mucus membrane lining the inner surface of the eyelid. If you noticed during check-up, doctors usually examine the eyes of either kids or adult.

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Asthma and Pneumonia Confusion
My younger brother who has been asthmatic since we were kids was diagnosed to have Pneumonia. just a week ago.  My mom was in a dilemma about how to differentiate asthma from pneumonia because my brother only had signs  and symptoms of the usual asthmatic person. Whenever he gets exposed to various substances like dust, perfumes, powder, and other stuff with strong odors, he would get an asthma attack. He’s been hospitalized a few times before due to his condition. He usually has the usual spray and tablets that are used for  asthma medication, that was prescribed by the physician before. But during his last check-up, the doctor said that he has developed pneumonia.

The difference between Asthma and Pneumonia
Here’s what the doctor had to say: Both asthma and pneumonia are diseases that affect the lungs. Asthma however involves inflammation, while pneumonia is an infection.

How to tell if it’s Asthma or Pneumonia?

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Understanding Scoliosis

scoliosis

Liv went to the doctor yesterday to have her check-up. She’s pretty healthy in all other aspects except for one thing, she has scoliosis and it developed for the past few years. She’s been through an ongoing series of therapy sessions already, her condition does not seem to get any better, but at least it eases the back pains that she’s suffering from due to scoliosis.  Even if one is not a doctor, you can tell if it’s scoliosis because of the obvious difference from a normal spine’s form.

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Tips for getting a better sleep

Are you insomniac, sleep deprived, or suffering from lack of sleep? Well. I’ve got a few tips that might help you to get a better sleep.

First, take frequent breaks during the workday. Walk around, get a drink of water, take some deep breaths. Engaging in a 30 to 60 minutes of exercise a couple of hours before bedtime could also help you relax, restore energy, banish depression and fight nervous tension.

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So what in the world is house, trance and techno music?

House music grew when certain DJs in the 80s became bored with standard disco music and altered the sound to make it less pop-oriented by making the beat more mechanical and the bass grooves deeper. The new sound became popular with the underground clubs in Chicago, New York and London. House music’s appeal is that it retains the basic elements of disco (a driving beat and great vocals) with modern instrumentation. So when you hear music with a mechanical beat with vocals, that is “house music”

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